" He is violent because his/her partner provokes him, in fact, she/he runs after the trouble. "

No matter what the other does or says, everyone is responsible for controlling their behavior; there is no good reason to use violence to be understood or obeyed.

" It's the alcohol that makes him violent. "

Alcohol is used as an excuse to indulge one's impulses. Despite the fact that stopping drinking can stop the violence for a time, he nevertheless remains a man who experiences bitterness, who is not very satisfied with his marital relationship and who still does not know how to express what he experiences from adequately.

" It's jealousy that makes him violent. "

Far from being proof of love, jealousy is proof of personal insecurity and lack of trust in others. It is everyone's responsibility to end the relationship if it is unsatisfactory, but jealousy absolutely does not justify the control it usually brings.

" Some children only understand with “kicks in the ass”. "

Violence is sometimes used as a way to punish the child for what he or she has done. The child understands nothing at all except that in life we have the right to use our physical or mental superiority to get others to submit to our will. The person who abuses their child believes that by doing so they will gain respect and establish authority. Perhaps fear will cause the child to comply at first, but in the long term the parent will lose the respect necessary for the child to recognize authority. Furthermore, the child risks reproducing this dynamic in turn.

" A violent man will be violent all his life. "

Violent behavior is learned and unlearned. It is possible to learn to satisfy yourself as a father, as a man, as a spouse and as a person. From that point on, violence is no longer “necessary.”

" Violence is a disease; we are born violent. "

An emotional, emotional and social “illness”, perhaps. But certainly not a physical illness; Contrary to popular belief, there is no gene for violence and it is not hereditary either.

" He is violent because of his past, the violence he suffered when he was younger. "

It cannot be denied that many people who use violence have been victims themselves in the past. However, not every abused man necessarily commits violence. It is possible to get through this by learning to meet your needs adequately.